Tact is caring more about what someone heard than what you said.
I thought of this while driving through MA once. I like it. It's not a definition of tact, but I think it's a nifty descriptor bit. I can believe in objectivity and rationalism all I want, but it doesn't undo the hurt caused by a misunderstanding. "But that's not what I meant!"
I think there exists a general assumption that the speaker's intentions are more real, more important than perceptions. In this case, it depends on the relationship. Even fault matters sometimes, and sometimes it doesn't really.Oh, you think you've got problems?
There's this funny logic that comes up from time to time, when someone gets to feeling their problems are more important than someone else's. I intended to write something about it, but have completely lost implied motivation. There's an Orson Scott Card quote that covers this well, but I don't have it handy.~obscurity.
I love the tilde.Indirect argument.
I'd been listening to C-Span all day. I think directly. (Don't we all?) But I skip steps. As far back as I can remember; I detested going through all the details; the repetition. So it's a hop, skip, and a wtf. Anyway, I was listening to C-Span, until it broke. And I love some of the rhetoric... silly stuff... but some members remember to acknowledge their opponent's intent (as they see it or as it is, both if they are good), before saying anything. It can be incredibly effective, even at its simplest. It's something I crave at times.[sickfunny] Q/A from Church of Euthanasia
Dear Chrissy, How can I join the Church of Euthanasia? Do I have to kill myself first? What are the rules? -Anxious in Albany
Joining the Church is EASY! Just wrap ten dollars in a piece of paper, pop it in an envelope and send it to [address].
Of course you don't have to kill yourself! If you really want to, though, wait until after you've joined the church! That way, you automatically become a saint, without any additional paperwork. The church has only one commandment, and it is:
"Thou shalt not procreate."
This means NO BREEDING! Procreation is grounds for immediate excommunication. Some related guidelines for good living follow:
(Note that cannibalism is limited to consumption of those ALREADY DEAD. There is currently no shortage. Killing people for food is strictly prohibited, no matter how hungry you are. Also note that contrary to popular belief, sodomy is defined as any sexual act not intended for procreation. Fellatio, cunnilingus, and anal sex are all forms of sodomy and are still illegal in many states. Masturbation may or may not be sodomy; the jury's still out on that, but it's okay with us, especially if you kill yourself while doing it.)
- Suicide is optional, but encouraged.
- Abortion may be required to avoid procreation.
- Cannibalism is mandatory if you insist on eating flesh.
- Sodomy is optional, but strongly encouraged.
There is some really weird stuff on that site.
something to hold on to
a bar on each side
some sexual fantasy
knowing it's illusion
we're all swimming
cats in the ocean
and I could let go
but I don't